Life has a way of presenting trials that test the very foundation of our faith. These moments, though painful, shape us into who God has called us to be. One of the biggest trials I have experienced was finding a godly spouse. Marriage was always part of God’s plan for me, but the way it unfolded was one of the most challenging seasons of my life.

The Trial: Waiting for the Right Partner

I grew up believing that marriage was a beautiful and God-ordained institution. From a young age, I looked forward to finding the right person. However, as time passed, I found myself waiting far longer than I had expected.

When I immigrated to Canada in 2016, I had to start life from scratch. Between settling into a new country, building a career and adjusting to a new culture, I found little time to focus on relationships. People around me were getting married, and I began to wonder if I was doing something wrong. The constant questions from friends and everyone around me only added
to the pressure.

At times, I felt as though I was being left behind. I had always thought I would meet my spouse in church, but despite my prayers and desires, God did not reveal anyone to me in that season. My fears grew—what if I never found someone who truly shared my faith and
values? What if I had to compromise on what I believed in to get married? What if I never got married? The world around me painted a discouraging picture of relationships, making the idea of marriage even more daunting.

The pandemic only intensified these struggles. With lockdowns and restrictions, meeting people became nearly impossible. Meanwhile, my friends were settling down, starting families and moving into new seasons of life. Ironically, I had been the one eager to get married back in college, while some of my friends had resisted the idea. Yet, they were the ones who found their partners first, while I remained in waiting.

Looking back, I see how God was using this waiting period to shape me, refine me and teach me to rely on Him completely. It wasn’t just about finding the right person—it was about becoming the right person. God had a purpose in my waiting, even when I didn’t
understand it at the time.

What I Learned Through the Waiting

1. Trusting in God’s Timing

One of the hardest lessons I learned was that God always wants the best for us, and the best always involves waiting. Patience is a fruit of the Spirit, and waiting builds character in a way nothing else can (Galatians 5:22-23). “Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.” (Psalm 27:14). Proverbs 3:5-6 says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight.” This verse became my foundation as I wrestled with uncertainty.

2. Never Compromise on Biblical Values

There is a reason why God has given us His word, the Bible. I saw many believers around me desperate to get married, to the point where they compromised on biblical values and were okay with marrying unbelievers. But I learned that God is so loving that He only wants more for us—never less. “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?” (2 Corinthians 6:14). I held onto the conviction that I would not lower the standards I had in mind for my future spouse, and God honoured that faith.

3. Growing Closer to God

Most problems in life find their solution when we grow closer to God. During a mission trip in 2019, God revealed to me that I needed to grow in Him and set certain things right before seeking a spouse. He taught me that when I seek Him first, everything else—including finding my future wife—would fall into place. James 4:8 says, “Draw near to God, and He will draw near to you.” When I received that word and started acting on it, that’s when things began to change.

4. Fear is from the Enemy- Fear is never from God.

The enemy often uses fear to blind us to God’s purpose and plan. I had fears about marriage – about making the right choice, and about whether I would ever find a godly wife. But God reminded me in Isaiah 41:10, “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.” Faith is the opposite of fear, and once I learned to trust God, He led me in ways I never expected. “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” (2 Timothy 1:7).

5. God’s Ways Are Higher and Better

I had my own ideas about how I would meet my wife—I thought I would meet her in person, get to know her, date for a time and
then get married. But God had a different plan. I met my wife Angel on an online platform, which I was completely against at first. In fact, I met her in person just days before our wedding. We talked virtually for four months before getting married. It was
completely out of my comfort zone, but God’s ways are higher and better than our own. Looking back, I see how beautifully He orchestrated everything. “Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails.” (Proverbs 19:21).

6. Faith and Obedience Open Doors

God requires us to walk in faith, even when we don’t understand. Obedience to His voice is key. I had to let go of my preconceived
notions and trust that He was leading me. Once I surrendered to Him fully, He brought the right person into my life at the right time. “Blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in him.” (Jeremiah 17:7). “We walk by faith, not by sight.” (2 Corinthians 5:7).

The Outcome: God’s Faithfulness in My Marriage

Through this trial, I learned that God never forgets His promises. His plans are not delayed; they are always on time. “The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness.” (2 Peter 3:9). What seemed like a frustrating and discouraging season was actually God’s way of preparing me for the best gift of my life—my wife.

If you are in a waiting season—whether for a spouse, a breakthrough, or a promise—know that God is working even when you don’t see it. Your waiting is not in vain.

“But they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint.” (Isaiah 40:31).

Keep your faith strong, stay involved in God’s work and trust that He is writing your story in a way that is better than you could ever imagine. God is faithful, always.